How long to wait when dating
Some, no doubt, will hate this advice — I’m sure I would have — but we all need to acknowledge that we can date long before we can marry — and that doesn’t mean we should.We cannot date toward marriage when marriage isn’t even on the radar yet.He wants to use you and your gifts to change other people’s lives.If he wills for you to be married, he wants to make you into a strong and caring future wife or husband.We long to be known and loved, to with someone, in someone else’s story. We’re really in pursuit of the happiness, belonging, and significance we think we’ll find in romance.If I could do it all over again, I wouldn’t have dated in the tenth grade (or the twelfth, or even my first couple years in college). The breakthrough came for me in beginning to understand the major differences between dating and marriage.A dating couple may feel married at times, but a dating couple is never a married couple.Understanding the distinctions between the relationships will protect us from all kinds of pain and failure in dating. Romantic intimacy is safest in the context of marriage, and marriage is safest in the context of clarity.
He capitalizes on our desires and convinces us we must “love” in order to truly live, that all the highest pleasures and fullest experiences are found in a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend (or husband or wife).
Life is never only, or even mainly, about love and marriage.
Our life is about Jesus now — his love for us and his plans for us — whether we’re single or married, sixteen or sixty.
I had my first “girlfriend” in the sixth grade, my first kiss that summer (different girl), and then a new girlfriend almost every year through high school.
From far too young, I was looking for affection, safety, and intimacy from girls instead of from God. My teenage years were one long string of relationships that were too serious for our age, went on too long, and therefore, ended too painfully. And the devil sat front-and-center, loving every minute of my early dating history. Your answer probably hangs on why you think you (or anyone else) should date in the first place.