Dating someone with borderline personality disorder forums
I spoke to ATOS, mid meltdown, to tell them I would not be attending.To my surprise, the gentleman I spoke to was really pleasant, and very apologetic I was so upset. ATOS have cancelled my appointment and are arranging a home assessment when they receive my GP letter.But what is behind the connection between Borderline Personality and abuse?The reality of this is such because borderlines lack a known consistent self and they struggle with abandonment fears and abandonment depression that stem directly from a primal core wound of abandonment that arrests their emotional and psychological development in the very first few months of life.This whirlwind of unregulated emotion meeting with fear and distrust generates the original feelings of rage that this core wound of abandonment aroused in the first place.The core wound of abandonment, when one is very young and experiences it, is the experience of psychological death.
My letter from the GP has gone to ATOS and the DWP, advising that he is concerned for my welfare.The intimacy that non-personality-disordered people enjoy is stressful and overwhelming to the borderline.It enlivens the borderline’s worst nightmare – the unresolved pain of the core wound of abandonment.Add to this that when there is any distancing or break in the intensity and symbiotic-like closeness (if in fact closeness is ultimately achieved) the borderline then fears, and/or feels abandoned.
This conflict of fearing or re-experiencing annihilation versus engulfment and then the re-experiencing of the fear of or actual feelings of abandonment that the borderline experiences, often subconsciously, in trying to be in relationship to other, causes the borderline to be triggered back to his/her original core wound of abandonment feelings in such a way as to trigger the primal feelings of helplessness, loss of control, needs equaling survival, thwarted needs being akin with the death of the lost self.
I filled in the PIP forms and have been summoned to a face to face assessment with ATOS now disguised as Independent Assessment Services on the 27th July. I'll just have to get along without it I just reread my post from last night.